'Entitled wife is fuming I won't buy her a present for giving birth – she's not worthy'

A man has been backed after he revealed he is refusing to get his wife a ‘push present’ even though it led to a huge row between them.

Most parents about to welcome a baby get fully stocked up on stuff before the birth. From nappies to clothes and everything between, friends and family usually contribute gifts to ensure the new child has everything they need.

But what about the person carrying the child for nine months? Whose body has gone through extreme physical changes? Surely they deserve a small token to say well done? Enter the ‘push present,’ a gift for new mums that recognises their hard work to deliver the family’s newest addition.

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While many mums will attest that their baby is gift enough, the push-present trend has exploded in recent years with social media flooded with videos of what many mothers have received.

Taking to Reddit to share his frustration with his wife, an anonymous man revealed that he and his partner have been together for five years and the couple are expecting their first child soon.

He wrote: “Few days ago, she sends me a TikTok video of a woman over one of those extremist podcasts talking about deserving some kind of a ‘push present’. At first I didn’t even know what that meant. But when I looked it up, it’s basically a thank you gift to the woman who brought your child in the world.”

The man said that he found the whole concept very strange, and although he understood his wife wanting to feel appreciated, the materialistic side of the trend gave him the “ick”.

He continued: The woman on the TikTok went on and on about how it’s a ‘body for a body’ which meant the man would have to get a permanent tattoo on his lower body, give her a house and a car as a gift exclusively to her.”

The father-to-be said he felt those type of expectations were “very entitled, honestly a little vindictive, and very over the top”. He added: “The decision to bring a child in the world is both partner’s decision. My wife in our case is not forced to be a mom or be pregnant, as she wants to be a parent too.

“I simply replied to the TikTok with laughing emojis and moved on, thinking it was the end of it and probably thought she meant to send that TikTok as a satire, like: ‘oh look how dumb this woman is, thinking she deserves all that’.”

However, the man soon discovered that his wife did not send it as a joke. He went on: “She was in the other room when I reacted to the video, so she comes to me and tells me that she doesn’t expect a tattoo and a house exclusively for her, but she wants me to dip into my personal savings to get her a car exclusively for her.

“I thought she was joking, and I pressed her if she was actually serious, she got very annoyed that I thought she was joking and probably imitating the entitled woman on the reel and she flatly said that she expected a real push present.”

Stunned, the man said he told his wife that her gift was the “gift of parenthood and a healthy baby”. He also told her that he was planning on getting her a Mother’s Day card and some expensive jewellery but nothing more.

He wrote: “I said if she really wants an extra car, it’ll be “OUR” car, not just hers. She pressed more and said how it isn’t enough for what she will go through. She kept pushing and pushing and asked me if I think she’s not worthy enough.

“I told her she is worthy as my partner and the mother of my child, but she has to be realistic and realise that none of us, individually speaking, is worthy of what she’s asking for. That she has to manage her expectations because I don’t see why she feels she deserves that.”

Needless to say, this did not go down well and the woman burst into tears and is now refusing to speak to her husband.

He finished: “I heard her criticising me to her sister on the phone but under no circumstances would I ever considering gifting HER a car. I feel bad she is hurting right now but I don’t feel bad for giving her a reality check.”

Those reading the Reddit post were firmly on the husband’s side and applauded him for taking a stand. One user replied: “ Influencers are literally ruining people. My present after successful deliveries was my husband knowing that he's a rotten cook, so he bought groceries and enlisted our loved ones to fill our freezer with heat and eat meals. He also chopped ingredients for them and cleaned up their kitchens. He started this project about a month before the due date of our firstborn, skipping his gym time so that it was a very sweet surprise.”

Another person added: “Both of my ‘push presents’ were pendants with the kids' birth stones and I didn’t even ask for it (though they are very much cherished). The world is becoming weird with all of these excessive expectations.” And a third user shared: “I had hyperemesis gravidarum (severe nausea) that went away almost instantly. My push present was my husband getting me a bag of Arby's beef and cheddar sandwiches and sneaking it into the hospital after visiting hours. I was starving and cried while I ate it!”

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